Selfishness is one of the major enemies of married love. This common personality weakness creates significant
pain and suffering in marriages and families. It is a major cause of marital anger, conflict and divorce.
It turns a person in upon himself/herself, thereby severely damaging the ability to give oneself cheerfully
in marriage. Also, it interferes with the development of true betrothed marital love because the person has
great difficulty in moving from "me to we" and in surrendering oneself to one's spouse. Unless it is uncovered
and resolved by growth in virtues, selfishness will lead spouses to treat loved ones as objects and not as gifted
The recognition of this weakness is a struggle for most people. Fortunately, with hard work and growth in virtues
and with a strong spiritual life, selfishness can be resolved.
Please complete the following selfishness checklist by identifying the appropriate number which applies to your
spouse and to you using this scale:
0 - Never | 1 - Very Little | 2 - Moderately Often | 3 - Very Often